Friday, 29 August 2008


Every second of every minute,of every hour, of every day, someone is told that someone they love is dead somewhere in the world.

This week I've been told about two that connect to my friends, one is my blog friend Robyn, whose sister in law has died. And the other is one of my closest friends sister. She was 48. She had had normal health, woke up, sat up and fell back dead.

I do not know how my friend is going to cope with this. Well no that's not true I know exactly, I work with grief for a living. What I mean is that my darling friend has to go through this pain and that no-one can help her. She does have other sisters so they will all be united in holding each other up, I hope. And of course I will be here for her day or night to listen to her, cause that's all any of us can do.

Every second of every minute, of every hour, of every day someone is told that they are loved somewhere in the world.

And I need to tell you to make sure you say it, whether to your family, your pets or your friends, don't let a day go by without owning to someone else what you feel.

Life is so precious and we take for granted that we will all be here tomorrow, so we are careless with our words. So many people say that the last words they shared with a loved one weren't good ones.

We don't get a second chance at this.

If you have words inside you that need saying, then be brave and say them. Cause the hate you will feel for yourself if you don't, when it is too late will be overwhelming. And grief is tough enough to get through without regret at never having said I love you.

I know in blog world those words get chucked about like confetti, but maybe they do that for a reason, maybe here it is safe to own love of our fellow man, which is fantastic. And I don't think devalues it, I think we should all throw more confetti.

The world has too many lonely people in it, and if I have warm and loving feelings towards someone I'll never meet then that's ok as far as I'm concerned.

Love is not a mathematical equation it's an unexplainable emotion. Love is something we all feel, if we are not psychopaths that is! It is something we have the gift of giving to others, our love. It is not any one's right to have it,not even our relatives!

And if we are very lucky then the people we give our love to will give it back, and that makes the world go round.


On a completely different subject, but still basically reminding us all to be mindful, have you checked your bank statement recently?
Apparently on the 27th of August I spent £150 on pizza and this morning a total of £1200 two Internet companies?????

I have not!

Fortunately these discrepancies have been discovered early, the joys of being self employed and checking regularly on the Internet! And the bank are sorting it all out for me. But it is hugely scary how easy it has been for a hacker to break into my account and steal my money.


Sally Townsend said...

True words indeed Fire Byrd, we can all never be reminded too often. I gave someone a postcard this week with a stamp on it and said all you have to do is write the words and post it.

Annie Wan said...

i was lucky enough to see my father 2 months before he died, but sad all the same that he didn't survive to see the birth of my 3rd or 4th children. and i wake up each morning happy to see that my dog is still alive and well, conscious that he is the one dearest to me who will have the shortest time with us all.

Sorrow said...

what the hell was on that pizza?
I love you fire Byrd

Pondside said...

Wise words in both parts of your post today.

Walker said...

I am sorry for your friends and hope they could come to grips with what has happened.
There is no gaurantee on how long we will live and nothing we coudl do about it but live life to its fullest uintil it arrives and celebrate the departeds joy in living when they walked this earth.
I have buried 7 family members this year and have had to watch my parents as they said goodbye to people they have known for all of their lives.

There is a custom Greeks have when s opmeone dies and they say "zoi se mas".
It means their death gives meaning of life to the living.

have a nice weekend

Gledwood said...

I think the saddest thing is those situations where people have an argument, the totally unexpected happens and someone is unexpectedly killed... and the other person is tearing themselves apart because their last words were crossed ones. Of COURSE the other person would not be angry with them... blah blahblah ... but you just try explaining that to someone intent on tearing themselves in two...
What an excellent post

Milla said...

Goodness what a shock. Your poor friend. I mean we all know we're going to die ... but not yet, and not at that age.

Wild Cat said...

I told both my kids tonight that i loved them x x x

Thanks for reminding us of what is really important


Chris Stovell said...

We have some long shadows over our family so I learned very early in life to make the most of what we have. Good advice to dare to say the thoughts we hold inside.


A lovely blog, and so true - I think we all need reminding from time to time how fragile life is and how easy it is to take people for granted.

...and I'm just trying to imagine how much pizza you could get for £150. I don't think even I could manage that much... (seriously, though, hope it's all sorted out quickly. Horrible feeling though - happened to me once, only my money had been spent at Argos. Argos? I mean, I ask you!) xx

Mel said...

That musta been SOME pizza!!! Holy moly.

You really are loved.
And not for the fancy pizza, either.

(((( firebyrd ))))

Shania said...

Hi, thanks so much for stopping by my blog and "representing England"!

Sadly, I had a blog friend get the news this week that her 44 y.o. brother had died. I can only imagine what she's going through.

And it is very scary how easy it is for people to steal from us. I make sure to check my internet banking every morning.

Wisewebwoman said...

Thanks for stopping by my blog, FB and your kind thoughts.
Yes, we all need reminding of what's important.

Fire Byrd said...

This is another of those occasions where I feel wrting out a comment to each is simply not possible. In as much as I don't know what to say.
The people who come here often know me well enough to know how much I value the comments.
and the people coming here for the first time, welcome and thank you so much for stopping by, I really appreciate it.

Cait O'Connor said...

Telling people we love them, you are so right, we should do it at every opportunity. one never knows what is round the next corner.A lovely, lovely post.