Friday, 29 August 2008
THINGS WE SHOULD TAKE NOTICE OF
Every second of every minute,of every hour, of every day, someone is told that someone they love is dead somewhere in the world.
This week I've been told about two that connect to my friends, one is my blog friend Robyn, whose sister in law has died. And the other is one of my closest friends sister. She was 48. She had had normal health, woke up, sat up and fell back dead.
I do not know how my friend is going to cope with this. Well no that's not true I know exactly, I work with grief for a living. What I mean is that my darling friend has to go through this pain and that no-one can help her. She does have other sisters so they will all be united in holding each other up, I hope. And of course I will be here for her day or night to listen to her, cause that's all any of us can do.
Every second of every minute, of every hour, of every day someone is told that they are loved somewhere in the world.
And I need to tell you to make sure you say it, whether to your family, your pets or your friends, don't let a day go by without owning to someone else what you feel.
Life is so precious and we take for granted that we will all be here tomorrow, so we are careless with our words. So many people say that the last words they shared with a loved one weren't good ones.
We don't get a second chance at this.
If you have words inside you that need saying, then be brave and say them. Cause the hate you will feel for yourself if you don't, when it is too late will be overwhelming. And grief is tough enough to get through without regret at never having said I love you.
I know in blog world those words get chucked about like confetti, but maybe they do that for a reason, maybe here it is safe to own love of our fellow man, which is fantastic. And I don't think devalues it, I think we should all throw more confetti.
The world has too many lonely people in it, and if I have warm and loving feelings towards someone I'll never meet then that's ok as far as I'm concerned.
Love is not a mathematical equation it's an unexplainable emotion. Love is something we all feel, if we are not psychopaths that is! It is something we have the gift of giving to others, our love. It is not any one's right to have it,not even our relatives!
And if we are very lucky then the people we give our love to will give it back, and that makes the world go round.
On a completely different subject, but still basically reminding us all to be mindful, have you checked your bank statement recently?
Apparently on the 27th of August I spent £150 on pizza and this morning a total of £1200 two Internet companies?????
I have not!
Fortunately these discrepancies have been discovered early, the joys of being self employed and checking regularly on the Internet! And the bank are sorting it all out for me. But it is hugely scary how easy it has been for a hacker to break into my account and steal my money.