Sunday, 16 August 2009

Another Sunday, another lifetime

Hopefully the world has moved on, and the front page on Wednesday is next weeks chip paper (newspaper used to be what was used to wrap around fish and chips to keep them warm when I was a child)

Whatever is going to happen will happen, whatever I think,feel or even do about it.

So Alex will go whichever route he's capable of going. Which since last weekend when strict boundaries were given by firstly, the police in arresting and charging him, and then by me in telling his the conditions of his continued residence in my house, he seems to have settled down a lot.

As for me, my house is awash with flowers, there are gladioli on the windowsill in the living room, there are yellow roses on the dining table, sunflowers in the kitchen, pale orange roses and carnations in my bedroom, which were a present a fortnight ago, and finally a fragrant bunch of sweet peas beside me on my desk, another present from a friend's garden to cheer me up.

And all of these flowers feature in the photographs that were taken of my house on Friday. My house is cleaned and tidied to within an inch, even Al's bedroom and his computer table! The only fly in the ointment is that dog has decided it's time for another moult!!! What that dog doesn't know is, that later this week she's getting a bath.... that'll sort her out, smelly hound.

I have felt held and cherished by all my friends this week. And I've been wonderfully surprised by the couple I go walking with, as they are not known for their tolerance and I went round for coffee. They had heard rumours about Alex so I told them all. I was fearing judgement, and they couldn't have been more supportive.

Unlike the rest of the neighbourhood, who are gossiping about me,my son and my dog at any opportunity they get. It's jolly difficult knowing that the people across the road and my next door neighbours (both sides) enjoy a good moan about my family at any given moment. I know this, as they are indiscriminate who they tell, and eventually it gets back to me.

So the For Sale sign going up in two weeks when all the paper work is complete, will give them a field day.....

And I can get on with the serious business of being obsessionally tidy in case someone wants to view..... Which of course having mild ( well I think it's mild, my sons think I've got it bad!)OCD is just a joy. And worrying also, about those people who want to view how I manoeuvre the dog around the house for them to see it all, but to also for them to retain all working limbs !!!

That said, the sort of tame wolf, sat on Trousers foot yesterday and demanded attention when we returned from walking, as in having her tummy stroked. So she has come a long way since January, but I can't be bothered to get her sorted for all viewers.....And I do have an expectation that I'm going to be inundated with them, well who wouldn't want to see round MY house!!!

So this Sunday unlike last is back to normal. I'm NOT crying and feeling lost at all. I'm sitting here avoiding the ironing instead....

Hope you like my blue theme of my pics. I do so enjoy changing them when I've thought of a theme.


Sage said...

It is exciting to hear your news in the for sale sign, do you have an idea of where you are going or is it yet to be decided. Glad you are receiving positive support from friends if not neighbours, it all helps.

trousers said...

Glad that things have settled down a bit! Enjoyed walking and catching up yesterday as usual, and Trixie was a real sweetie :)

CheekyDani said...

I've been thinking of you this week. Glad to read things are sort of settling for you - as much as they can I guess. And how exciting that the For Sale sign is going up, I'm very pleased for you. Do take care Madame Fire x

Mel said...

Well, I figure if they're talking about me, they're leaving some poor other 'less capable of handling it' person alone.

See how that works. LOL

I love the colours--and the header made me go 'whoaaaaaaa'.

How exciting the 'for sale' sign is going up! It's happening, it's happening!!!!

Oh's happening!!! Yikes.

Ohmygosh...I so need to have a good clearing out of the 'stuff' in this house.

Angela Recada said...

I hope the sale of your house is speedy and everything runs smoothly!
It seems our sons still need to be told in no uncertain terms, and often, of their boundaries, even when they think they are adults, and feel they are beyond listening to their mothers. I'm glad things have settled down for you for now. And I hope the worst is over for you both.

Paula said...

Big hug across the channel. Glad you have calmed a bit and SURELY (I keep my fingers crossed for a speedy sale. I know how much you like to wander Devon

Pam said...

Wow - for sale! New beginnings. I am so glad your house is filled with flowers -they are the most beautiful cheery things, and something more pleasant to look at than the ironing basket! You've done well to cope with all this.I remember when my daughter was atrocious and my husband and I just wanted our house back.Seems the natural way of things.Establishing boundaries is necessary but fraught.Well done Mandy - you'd have to be a saint not to feel bombarded from all sides.You'll emerge victorious I'm sure.

Picsie Chick said...

Congratulations, Ms. Byrd. This is a new and happier chapter of your life that is beginning. May you be surrounded by happy, helpful, wonderful butterflies through this transition.


karen said...

Great to hear you are feeling more cheerful! And.. exciting news about the house for sale! The flower pics are gorgeous, and all the flowers in your house sound too beautiful. Glad that you have so many friends and supporters. x

Linda - Gold Coast said...

Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul ~Luther Burbank~

Merry ME said...

I love hearing things have turned a corner and looking brighter.

Your new blue theme is exquisite.

Flowers and dog hair - a sure sign to any potential buyer that love resides in the house.